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Hi there! It’s me – Mellie B.! Welcome to my world!

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Ima just jump right in … for several years, I have been playing with the idea of starting some sort of social media presence and using this big, world, wide web as a way to connect with myself and others through storytelling. For about the last year and half, two years I have been trying to come up with the perfect plan and put together a full system and develop all of the tools and resources that are needed before I actually got started, but like, literally why? I know it’s best to build things as you are living them. That’s been my professional experience and what I have been able to become an expert in professionally – operations, building systems, strategic planning, and team + community building. I can fairly confidently say that I have mastered those, specifically when I am the leader of a group and initiative. Yet, in my personal life…I am a mother-fucking train wreck.  To date, I have let my AuDHD and unhealed childhood trauma control pretty much every … single … aspect … of my life. I will give myself some grace and acknowledge that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this is what was happening. However, I do know now and I wish it was as simple as the great Maya Angelou said, “When you know better, you do better” but it’s really not that simple, at least not for me. There is a BIG fucking difference between knowing and doing and until just now as I am writing this, I didn’t make the connection that my personal challenge with connecting the two, “bridging the gap”, was a direct result of my neuro-spiciness. Like, I knew in general, but I didn’t make the connection until just now.

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And, to be honest, this is one of the things that makes me angry about our educational system – we don’t help individuals learn all of the ways to identify and be, to discover was resonates with and feels authentic to them and honestly, just the basic skills that are needed to be an authentic human, working towards self-actualization while we are here in this body, navigating this complex world we live in. This is one of the main drives for me with UN1TED, my social enterprise that I have been thinking about and trying to figure out since June of 2020. We rely so heavily on an individual’s family to provide them with all of the basic life skills and instead our educational system, here in the U.S., focuses on teaching scholars the colonialized view of what it means and what is needed to be “successful”. There is not a person that I know, that has said that they learned everything or really even a majority of what they needed to know about just LIVING, and BEING an individual day in and day out from their education, regardless of how much education they have. In fact, every person that I have ever spoken with, would say the opposite – their education DID NOT prepare them for the real world. And so, what are we missing? So fucking much! We have gotten so lost, as a country and honestly as a species, in our desire for colonialism, individuality (though not AUTHENTIC individuality, but rather mainstream representation) and capitalism that we have lost track of the importance of community – the importance of belonging – the importance of the individual next to us being just as important and valid as we are, even if there is nothing that aligns with their person and ours. I could go on for hours about my personal thoughts, opinions, theories and experiences and how I think we are totally screwing up this game of life as the human species – and I will, all in good time – but, for now, I will leave it at that.

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So … this is the beginning of my attempt to share my journey of being vulnerable and learning all of the things that I was never taught, but that are IMPERATIVE to living a life that aligns with my morals and values – living my authentic life – livin’ my legacy. Actually, I started this journey in 2018, but this is my current path. I hope some of you come along with me. I hope some of you see my courage, brave vulnerability, feel safe to share yours with me and join me in my community of individuals trying to break all of the cycles that are detrimental to their well-being; individuals working to heal their traumas; individuals learning to discover themselves, accept their person as they are; individuals expressing their authentic, vulnerable selves; and individuals who make the time to help and lift others because they believe it’s just as important for their neighbor to be their authentic, vulnerable self and thrive in their ‘pursuit of happiness’ as it is for them. Those are my people! Those are the individuals I am looking to add to my community. And for those of you that I lose along the way, I hope that you find your path to live YOUR legacy – the legacy you want to leave behind when you are no longer in this body; I hope you have the best journey you can and that you build the love and community that you want and need.

 

Until next time …

​always remember #LiveIntentionally #WalkInTheDirectionOfPeace #LiftOthersUp #BeTheRainbow and if nothing else, #DoOneKindThing

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Mellie B.

mlB

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Founder/CEO

UN1TED